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Love and Relationships

Love and Relationships is one of the four Beliefs and Ideas options (Component 3), studying ancient Greek and Roman ideas about love, men, women and marriage through philosophy and poetry. This topic teaches the whole option: the sources and how the option studies ideas of love through both philosophical and poetic texts; ancient ideas of marriage, gender and the household; the philosophy of love in Plato's Symposium (the ladder of love) and Seneca's Stoicism; the poetry of love in Sappho's lyric and Ovid's playful elegy; and the ancient construction of desire, sexuality and social norms. It teaches the authors and works accurately by name and models how to analyse philosophical and poetic sources for the ideas about love and relationships they express, without anachronism.

5 sections~26 min reading time2 competenciesLevel Foundation 1 · Standard 3 · Advanced 1

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AO1 · Demonstrate knowledge and understanding of ancient ideas of love, relationships and their social contextAO2 · Analyse and interpret philosophical and poetic sources for the ideas about love they express

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basic level

AS-Level covers a defined selection of the sources; the analytical demands are the same.

higher level

The full A-Level requires secure knowledge of the prescribed philosophical and poetic sources, with sustained analysis.

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Love and Relationships

Love and relationships: the sources#

FoundationOCR H408 Component 3 (Love and Relationships: sources)DfE GCE Classical Civilisation subject content

The sources for love and relationships

Fig. 1The option studies ideas of love through two kinds of source - philosophy and poetry - across the Greek and Roman worlds.

This option studies the ideas that the ancient Greeks and Romans held about love, desire, men, women and marriage - one of the Beliefs and Ideas options, and so concerned above all with ideas, explored through prescribed texts. It ranges across both the Greek and the Roman worlds and across several centuries, and it approaches its subject through two very different kinds of source: philosophy and poetry. This pairing is the key to the option's design. Philosophy offers reasoned, analytical accounts of what love is, what it is worth and how it should be treated; poetry offers the expression and exploration of love and desire as they are actually felt and lived. Studying both together gives a rounded picture of ancient thinking about love.

The philosophical strand is represented above all by Plato and Seneca. Plato, the Greek philosopher of the fourth century BC, gives in his dialogue the Symposium the most famous ancient philosophical treatment of love, culminating in the idea of love as an ascent from physical desire toward the contemplation of absolute Beauty. Seneca, the Roman Stoic of the first century AD, approaches love and the emotions from a very different angle, as a philosopher concerned with how the passions should be mastered by reason and what value should be placed on relationships such as friendship. Between them they represent two great philosophical traditions - the Platonic and the Stoic - thinking hard about desire, emotion and human bonds.

The poetic strand is represented by Sappho and Ovid, who are as different from one another as the two philosophers. Sappho, the Greek lyric poet of around 600 BC, writes intense, personal poetry that expresses the experience of love and desire from the inside, with a famous immediacy and emotional power, often addressed to women. Ovid, the Roman poet of the Augustan age, writes witty, ironic, sophisticated love poetry that treats love as a game and an art, instructing his readers with mock-seriousness in the techniques of seduction. Where Sappho gives the raw feeling of desire, Ovid gives its urbane social performance, so the two together display the range of ancient love poetry.

The great methodological warning for this option, which should be kept in mind from the outset, is against anachronism - the reading of modern ideas and categories into the ancient evidence. Ancient societies organised love, marriage, gender and sexuality on assumptions very different from modern Western ones: marriage was not primarily a romantic union; the roles of men and women were sharply and unequally divided; and sexuality was framed in categories quite unlike ours. To understand the sources, you must set aside modern expectations of romantic marriage and modern categories of sexual identity, and read the texts in their own terms and social context. Analysing without anachronism is the central discipline the option demands.

For the exam, then, the option asks you to analyse philosophical and poetic sources for the ideas about love and relationships they express, and to set those ideas in their social context. A strong answer knows the sources well, distinguishes the philosophical treatment of love (Plato, Seneca) from its poetic expression (Sappho, Ovid), and reads both against the realities of ancient marriage, gender and society. Above all it interprets ancient ideas of love in their own terms rather than measuring them against modern romance. Understanding how the philosophical and poetic sources complement one another, and reading them without anachronism, is the foundation of the whole option.

Worked example

Philosophy and poetry on love

Explain what the philosophical and poetic sources each contribute to the study of ancient love.

The philosophical contribution
Plato and Seneca offer reasoned analysis of what love is, what it is worth and how the passions should be treated - love as a subject of thought.
The poetic contribution
Sappho and Ovid express and explore love as it is felt and performed - the experience of desire and its social play.
Their complementarity
Together they give both the idea and the experience of love, from Plato's ascent to Beauty to Sappho's physical symptoms of desire.
The governing discipline
Both must be read in their ancient social context and without importing modern ideas of romantic love or sexual identity.

Result: Philosophy supplies reasoned ideas of love and the passions while poetry supplies their lived expression, and reading the two together, in context and without anachronism, is how the option builds its picture of ancient love.

Typical mistakes

Reading modern ideas of romantic love and marriage into the ancient sources instead of understanding their very different assumptions.
Treating the poetry as simple biography or the philosophy as detached from society, rather than analysing each as an idea of love in its context.

Active revision

Explain how philosophy and poetry each illuminate ancient ideas of love, naming the key sources; then give one example of a modern assumption you must set aside to read them without anachronism.

Active recall

Recall the key points — then reveal.

Sources: OCR AS and A Level Classical Civilisation (H008, H408) specification (OCR (Oxford Cambridge and RSA))

Marriage, men and women#

StandardOCR H408 Component 3 (Love and Relationships: marriage and gender)DfE GCE Classical Civilisation subject content

Athenian and Roman ideas of women and marriage

Fig. 2Two patriarchal systems compared: Athenian seclusion beside greater Roman social visibility, sharing marriage for heirs and property and the subordination of women.

To understand ancient ideas of love, you must first understand ancient marriage, which was organised on assumptions very different from the modern romantic ideal. In both Greece and Rome, marriage was primarily a social and economic institution rather than a union founded on love. Its central purposes were the production of legitimate children - above all sons, to continue the family line and inherit property - and the ordered transfer of property and the joining of two households (oikoi in Greek). Marriages were typically arranged by the families concerned, often with a dowry, and the personal feelings of the couple (especially the bride) were not the basis of the match. Affection might grow within a marriage, but it was not what marriage was for.

Ancient society, especially in classical Athens, was built on a sharp division of gender roles between a male public sphere and a female domestic one. The free male citizen belonged to the outside world - politics, war, business, the law courts, the symposium - while the respectable woman belonged to the household, managing the home, working wool, bearing and raising children. The ideal held up for women was one of domestic seclusion and modesty; a respectable Athenian woman was expected to be little seen and little spoken of in public. This division was not merely practical but was understood as the proper order of the sexes, and it framed how relationships between men and women were imagined.

Women's legal and social position reflected this subordination. In Athens a woman was, throughout her life, under the authority of a male guardian (kyrios) - father, husband or nearest male relative - who represented her legally and controlled property on her behalf; she could not act as a fully independent legal person. The great asymmetry of power between husband and wife, often reinforced by a considerable age gap (men typically marrying much younger women), was built into the institution. Marriage joined a mature man to a young bride whose chief expected virtues were chastity, obedience and skill in managing the household - virtues serving the marriage's purposes of legitimate heirs and good order.

Rome shared the fundamental pattern but differed in important ways, and comparing the two is a standard analytical exercise. Roman marriage too existed for children, property and alliance, and Roman society too was patriarchal, with the household under the authority of its male head (the paterfamilias) and women subject to male authority. But Roman women, especially of the upper classes, generally enjoyed greater social freedom and public visibility than their Athenian counterparts: they could attend dinners and public occasions, exercise real influence within the family, and the ideal of the Roman matrona combined domestic virtue with a more prominent social role. The contrast shows that ancient gender norms, while everywhere patriarchal, were not uniform.

For analysis, the key is to read the sources on love against this social reality, in which marriage and romantic love were largely separate things. Because marriage was for heirs, property and order rather than for love, passionate desire (eros) was often located outside or alongside marriage, and could even be seen as a threat to it (a theme of the final section). When you analyse a source about marriage, men and women, ask what purposes the relationship serves, how it distributes power and roles between the sexes, and how far it involves love at all - and set Greek and Roman practice side by side. Understanding that ancient marriage was an unequal social institution, not a romantic partnership, is essential to interpreting every source in the option correctly.

Worked example

The purpose of marriage

Explain what ancient marriage was for and how it positioned men and women.

The purposes
Marriage existed to produce legitimate children (especially sons and heirs), to transfer property and to ally households - not to unite a couple in love.
The divided spheres
Men belonged to the public world of politics, war and business; respectable women to the private world of the household and childbearing.
The inequality
Women were legally subordinate (in Athens under a male guardian), often much younger than their husbands, and valued for chastity, obedience and household skill.
The consequence for love
Because marriage served heirs and order rather than love, passionate desire was largely separate from it, and could even threaten it.

Result: Ancient marriage was an unequal social institution for producing heirs and ordering property and households, with sharply divided gender roles - so love and marriage were largely distinct, which shapes how the sources treat desire.

Typical mistakes

Assuming ancient marriage was founded on romantic love, missing its purposes of heirs, property and social order.
Treating Greek and Roman practice as identical, ignoring the greater public visibility of upper-class Roman women.

Active revision

Analyse the purposes of marriage and the position of women in a source you know; compare Athenian and Roman assumptions about the roles of men and women.

Active recall

Recall the key points — then reveal.

Sources: GCE AS and A level subject content for classical civilisation (Department for Education)

The philosophy of love: Plato and Seneca#

StandardOCR H408 Component 3 (Love and Relationships: philosophy)DfE GCE Classical Civilisation subject content

Plato's ladder of love

Fig. 3The ladder of love in the Symposium: eros ascends from a single beautiful body, rung by rung, to the contemplation of absolute Beauty.

The philosophical treatment of love is one of the two great strands of the option, and its most celebrated source is Plato's Symposium, a dialogue of the fourth century BC. The Symposium is set at a drinking party at which the guests each deliver a speech in praise of Eros, the god of love, so the dialogue offers a sequence of contrasting views of love building toward its climax. Two of these speeches are especially famous and repay close study. Together they make the Symposium the foundational philosophical text on love in the Western tradition, and analysing its ideas is central to the option.

The first is the comic myth put in the mouth of the playwright Aristophanes. He explains desire by a fantastic story: human beings were originally double creatures, with two faces, four arms and four legs, until Zeus, fearing their power, split each in half; ever since, each half has longed to be reunited with its other half, and this longing is what we call love. The myth is playful, but it gives memorable form to a serious idea - that love is a search for wholeness and for one's missing counterpart - and it is the ultimate source of the familiar notion of finding one's other half. It presents love as a yearning to complete oneself.

The climax of the dialogue is the speech of Socrates, who reports the teaching of a wise woman, Diotima, and sets out the idea for which the Symposium is most famous: the ascent of love, often called the ladder of love. Love, on this account, begins with the desire for a single beautiful body, but should not stop there: the lover rises from loving one beautiful body to loving all beautiful bodies, then to loving the beauty of souls and minds, then the beauty of laws, institutions and knowledge, and finally to the contemplation of Beauty itself - absolute, eternal and unchanging (the Platonic Form of Beauty). Physical desire is thus the first rung of a ladder that leads, rightly followed, up to philosophy and the highest reality. This transformation of erotic desire into a spur toward the eternal and the good is the essence of what is called Platonic love.

A very different philosophical treatment comes from the Roman Stoic Seneca in the first century AD, and setting the two side by side sharpens both. Stoicism held that the strong emotions or passions - including erotic passion - are disturbances of the mind, rooted in false judgements, that trouble our peace and enslave us; the wise person therefore aims to master the passions by reason and to remain undisturbed. On this view, being in the grip of overwhelming desire is not an exaltation, as it can be for Plato, but a kind of sickness of the soul to be cured. What the Stoic values instead is a rational, virtuous bond such as true friendship (amicitia), a relationship of shared virtue and mutual good, secure because it rests on reason and character rather than on volatile passion.

For analysis, Plato and Seneca offer two contrasting philosophical responses to love and desire, and a strong answer can compare them. Plato takes eros seriously as a powerful force and seeks to redirect it - from the body upward to the soul, to knowledge and finally to Beauty itself - making desire the beginning of the philosophical life. Seneca, the Stoic, is wary of passion as a disturbance to be mastered by reason, and locates real value in the calm, rational bond of friendship rather than in the turbulence of desire. When you analyse a philosophical source, identify its view of what love or desire is, whether it is to be elevated or mastered, and what it holds to be truly valuable in human relationships - and you engage directly with the ancient philosophy of love.

Worked example

Analysing the ladder of love

Explain how Plato's ladder of love transforms desire, and contrast it with Seneca's view.

The starting point
In Diotima's teaching, love begins with the ordinary desire for a single beautiful body - eros in its physical form.
The ascent
The lover should rise from one body to all bodies, then to the beauty of souls, then of laws and knowledge, and finally to Beauty itself.
The transformation
Physical desire becomes the first rung of a ladder leading up to philosophy and the eternal Form of Beauty - eros redirected toward the highest reality.
The Stoic contrast
Seneca, by contrast, sees such passion as a disturbance to be mastered by reason, valuing the calm, rational bond of friendship over the turbulence of desire.

Result: Plato makes physical desire the first step of an ascent toward absolute Beauty, elevating eros into philosophy, whereas Seneca's Stoicism seeks to master passion by reason and prizes rational friendship - two opposed philosophies of love.

Typical mistakes

Describing the ladder of love vaguely; be precise about the ascent (one body, all bodies, beauty of soul, of knowledge, the Form of Beauty).
Treating Platonic love as merely non-physical affection, missing that it begins in physical desire and transforms it into a route to the eternal.

Active revision

Analyse the ladder of love in Plato's Symposium, then contrast it with Seneca's Stoic view of the passions; explain what each holds to be truly valuable in love or relationships.

Active recall

Recall the key points — then reveal.

Sources: OCR AS and A Level Classical Civilisation (H008, H408) specification (OCR (Oxford Cambridge and RSA))

The poetry of love: Sappho and Ovid#

StandardOCR H408 Component 3 (Love and Relationships: poetry)DfE GCE Classical Civilisation subject content

Sappho and Ovid compared

Fig. 4Two poets of love compared: Sappho's sincere, bodily intensity beside Ovid's ironic, sophisticated play, sharing a first-person voice and consummate craft.

Where philosophy analyses love, poetry expresses and explores it, and the option's two great poets - Sappho and Ovid - could hardly be more different, which is exactly what makes them so instructive to study together. Both write about love and desire in the first person, but the one gives the raw, intense experience of feeling and the other its witty, ironic social performance. Reading them side by side displays the range of ancient love poetry, from sincere passion to sophisticated play, and analysing how each poet uses the resources of verse to convey a stance toward love is the core skill this part of the option requires.

Sappho, a Greek lyric poet of the island of Lesbos around 600 BC, is celebrated for the intensity and immediacy of her personal love poetry, much of it expressing desire for women. Her most famous achievement is the vivid depiction of the physical symptoms of desire: in her best-known poem she describes, on seeing the person she loves, how her tongue fails, a subtle fire runs beneath her skin, her ears ring, sweat pours down and she trembles, seeming close to death. This unflinching account of what desire does to the body from the inside was something new and has been admired ever since as a landmark in the expression of subjective erotic experience. Sappho's poetry gives us the rare and precious thing of a woman's own voice on love and longing, and its power lies in its sincerity, immediacy and emotional truth.

Ovid, a Roman poet of the Augustan age (43 BC to about AD 17), represents the opposite pole: love as an urbane, witty game. In his Amores he plays the part of the sophisticated lover, and in his mock-didactic poem the Ars Amatoria (the Art of Love) he casts himself as a teacher of love (praeceptor amoris), instructing his readers, with elaborate seriousness, in the arts of finding, winning and keeping a lover. The pose is knowing and ironic: love is treated not as overwhelming passion but as a social skill, a sport of clever manoeuvre and calculated charm, to be practised with wit and detachment. Ovid's poetry is polished, funny, cynical and thoroughly unsentimental, delighting in its own cleverness and in the games lovers play.

The contrast between the two poets is the most productive theme here, and it can be drawn precisely. Sappho writes from within the experience of desire, sincerely and intensely, making us feel love as an overwhelming force that seizes the body and the self; Ovid writes from a knowing distance, ironically and playfully, treating love as an art to be practised and a game to be won. Where Sappho is passionate and subjective, Ovid is detached and sophisticated; where she conveys the reality of feeling, he performs the social comedy of seduction. The two embody two enduring modes of love poetry - the sincere and the ironic, the confessional and the artful - and setting them against each other illuminates both.

For analysis, the key is to read the poetry closely for how it constructs its stance toward love, not merely for what it says. Ask how Sappho's choice of physical, bodily detail and her first-person immediacy create the effect of sincere, overwhelming desire; ask how Ovid's ironic pose, his mock-didactic form and his witty tone create the effect of love as a detached game. Ask, too, what each poet's treatment implies about love - as a force that masters us or a skill we practise. Reading Sappho and Ovid as opposed but complementary explorations of erotic experience, and analysing the poetic means by which each achieves its very different effect, is how you write well about the poetry in this option.

Worked example

Sappho on the symptoms of desire

Analyse how Sappho conveys the experience of desire, and contrast her stance with Ovid's.

The bodily detail
Sappho catalogues the physical symptoms of desire - the failing tongue, fire under the skin, ringing ears, sweat and trembling - on seeing the beloved.
The effect
This unflinching, first-person account makes the reader feel desire from the inside as an overwhelming force that seizes the whole body and self.
The sincerity
The immediacy and emotional truth give the poem its power and preserve a rare female voice on love and longing.
The Ovidian contrast
Ovid, by contrast, stands at an ironic distance, treating love as a game and an art to be taught, playful and detached where Sappho is sincere and overwhelmed.

Result: Sappho conveys desire as an overwhelming bodily experience through vivid first-person symptoms and sincere intensity, in sharp contrast to Ovid's detached, witty treatment of love as a game - two opposite modes of love poetry.

Typical mistakes

Reading the poetry as straightforward autobiography rather than as a crafted stance toward love (especially Ovid's ironic pose).
Blurring the two poets, missing the sharp contrast between Sappho's sincere intensity and Ovid's detached wit.

Active revision

Analyse how Sappho conveys the experience of desire and how Ovid treats love as a game; compare the poetic means and the attitude to love in each.

Active recall

Recall the key points — then reveal.

Sources: GCE AS and A level subject content for classical civilisation (Department for Education)

Desire, sexuality and social norms#

AdvancedOCR H408 Component 3 (Love and Relationships: sexuality and norms)DfE GCE Classical Civilisation subject content

Ancient desire, sexuality and norms

Fig. 5The framework of ancient desire and sexuality: organised by roles and status, marked by a double standard, and wary of eros as a disruptive force - to be read without anachronism.

Drawing the option together requires confronting how differently the ancient world constructed desire and sexuality, and here the discipline of avoiding anachronism matters most. The Greeks and Romans did not think in terms of the modern categories of sexual identity - they had no notion of people as heterosexual or homosexual by nature. Ancient thinking about sexual behaviour was organised instead around other axes: above all the distinction between the active and the passive role, and questions of social status and citizen masculinity. What mattered in judging a relationship was often less the sex of the partners than the roles played and the status of those involved. Reading the ancient evidence through modern categories of orientation simply misdescribes it.

Within this different framework, certain relationships were socially recognised that a modern reader must understand in context rather than by assumption. In classical Greek (and especially aristocratic Athenian) culture, there existed a socially acknowledged, if debated and regulated, relationship between an older man (the erastes) and a younger male youth (the eromenos), which in its idealised form was given an educational and mentoring dimension, the older man guiding the younger toward virtue and citizenship. This institution belonged to a specific social world with its own conventions and limits, and it must be studied factually and in its own terms, as the ancient evidence presents it, without importing modern assumptions or judgements. It is one clear illustration of how ancient norms of relationship differed from modern ones.

Running through ancient attitudes was a pronounced double standard between the sexes. Because the central purpose of marriage was the production of legitimate heirs, the chastity and fidelity of women were demanded with great strictness - a wife's infidelity threatened the legitimacy of the family line and was gravely punished - while men's sexual behaviour outside marriage was treated far more leniently. This asymmetry was not seen as a contradiction but followed from the social logic of the household and inheritance. The control of female sexuality, in particular, was bound up with the whole system of marriage, property and legitimate descent, and it shaped the very different expectations placed on husbands and wives.

A further important theme is the ancient tendency to see passionate desire (eros) as a powerful and potentially dangerous, disruptive force - one often at odds with the ordered institution of marriage rather than its foundation. In myth and above all in tragedy, overwhelming erotic passion is repeatedly shown as destructive: it drives Medea to murder her own children and Phaedra to ruin, presenting love as a kind of madness or affliction that can shatter lives and households. This wary, even fearful, view of eros as an irrational force that seizes and destroys stands in striking contrast to any romantic idealisation of love, and it reflects a society that prized order, self-control and the stable household above the turbulence of desire.

For analysis, the overarching point is that ancient ideas of love, desire and sexuality were shaped by a society organised around the household, citizen status, a strict gender hierarchy and the need for legitimate heirs, and they framed these matters on assumptions profoundly unlike those of the modern West. The philosophers' treatments (mastering or elevating desire), the poets' explorations (sincere or ironic), the institution of marriage (for heirs and order), and the norms of sexuality (roles and status rather than orientation, the double standard, eros as a dangerous force) all belong to this coherent but alien world. When you analyse any source in the option, read it within this framework and without anachronism - and you demonstrate the mature, historically disciplined understanding of ancient love and relationships that the highest marks require.

Worked example

Reading ancient sexuality without anachronism

Explain how ancient ideas of desire and sexuality differed from modern ones.

A different framework
The ancients had no categories of sexual orientation; behaviour was judged by roles (active/passive) and by social status and citizen masculinity.
Relationships in context
Socially recognised relationships of the period must be understood within their own conventions and limits, not by modern assumptions.
The double standard
Because marriage existed for legitimate heirs, female chastity was strictly demanded while male behaviour was treated far more leniently.
Eros as danger
Passionate desire was widely seen as a disruptive, even destructive force, shown ruining lives in myth and tragedy (Medea, Phaedra) rather than idealised.

Result: Ancient desire and sexuality were framed by roles, status, the household and legitimate descent - with a marked double standard and a wary view of eros - a coherent but alien system that must be read on its own terms, without anachronism.

Typical mistakes

Imposing modern categories of sexual identity on ancient evidence that was framed around roles, status and citizen masculinity.
Idealising ancient love as romantic, missing the double standard and the widespread view of eros as a dangerous, disruptive force.

Active revision

Explain how ancient ideas of desire and sexuality differed from modern ones (framework, the double standard, eros as disruptive), and show how this shapes the reading of one source in the option.

Active recall

Recall the key points — then reveal.

Sources: OCR AS and A Level Classical Civilisation (H008, H408) specification (OCR (Oxford Cambridge and RSA))

References & sources

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OCR (Oxford Cambridge and RSA)

OCR AS and A Level Classical Civilisation (H008, H408) specification

Department for Education

GCE AS and A level subject content for classical civilisation

Love and Relationships

5 sections~26 min reading time2 competenciesLevel Foundation 1 · Standard 3 · Advanced 1

Love and Relationships

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Philosophy and poetry on love

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The purpose of marriage

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Analysing the ladder of love

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Sappho on the symptoms of desire

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Reading ancient sexuality without anachronism

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Love and Relationships

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Philosophy and poetry on love

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The purpose of marriage

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Analysing the ladder of love

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Sappho on the symptoms of desire

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Reading ancient sexuality without anachronism

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